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Are You Stuck In Your Trauma?

How Can You Recognize Trauma So You Can Get Unstuck? For a black woman leader who feels that she’s stuck going in circles and never obtaining the goals she’s pursuing, sometimes she just needs help recognizing what’s keeping her stuck. Listen or watch episode 8 of season 4 on the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast.

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About Episode 8: Are You Stuck In Trauma? Recognizing What’s Holding You Back

Season 4 of The Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast with Coach Donna Marie

In the last episode, I talked about how having high expectations within the wrong context can get you stuck in perfectionism. In this episode, I discuss specific things that may help you recognize what is holding you back from obtaining your goals, especially in terms of signs of trauma.

About the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast

How can black women leaders understand themselves better and make better choices so they will live more happily and have more joy in all of their relationships? Getting past perfectionism is one of the keys to this. Hear the perspectives of diverse leaders who understand this topic of perfectionism. Look through this PlantYourSeeds.show website to see past episodes and learn about past guests.

About the Host: Coach Donna Marie

Coach Donna Marie has been an AACC Certified Spiritual Leadership Coach since Summer 2022. Her goal as a podcaster is to help women like herself, black women leaders, to learn from her and from her guests so they can gain more self-awareness and keep moving forward towards their goals despite past trauma or crises that may be still impacting them.

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High Expectations: What Do They Get You?

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High Expectations: What Do They Get You? How Is This Related to Toxic Perfectionism? 

Episode 7 Season 4 Plant Your Seeds of Transformation

How can black women leaders understand themselves better and make better choices so that they will live more happily and have more joy in all of their relationships? Getting past perfectionism is one of the keys for this. Hear perspectives of diverse leaders who understand this topic of perfectionism. See the full show notes at https://PlantYourSeeds.show

How Do You Define Strong As A Woman of Color?

Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Season 4 Episode 5: How Do You Define Strong As A Woman of Color? Coach Donna Marie interviewed our guest Deya B. She shared her journey through trauma recovery while pursuing her goals as a neurodivergent professional writer who has roots within East Indian culture.

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When you hear “Strong Black Woman” what images come up for you? I think of Superwoman or Wonder Woman, but I know that expecting this from myself is unrealistic. I may be strong, and I may get some things right sometimes, but I am not perfect… and I no longer strive to be perfect all of the time, either. So, at this point in my journey, the phrase “strong black woman”, is a little triggering for me because I feel that it symbolizes the toxic perfectionism that I am now staying away from so that I can be healthier and happier.

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Episode 5 of Season 4 features our guest Deya B. This professional writer has been noticed by the leaders at Medium who invited her to speak at their annual Medium Day virtual conference for writers. She was amazing, and Coach Donna Marie knew she would be a great fit to speak to similar topics that we’re already covering here on The Plant Your Seeds of Transformation podcast. Listen to hear our guest Deya as she shares her journey through trauma recovery while pursuing her goals as a professional writer who is neurodivergent.

Key Takeaways and Notes:

  • Perfectionism can be a cultural expectation and create unhealthy pressure based on unrealistic expectations
  • Trauma can sometimes be hard to identify, and when you do not even know it’s a problem for you, it makes it so much harder to get help.
  • Black and Brown women leaders who are goal-oriented often get bad advice from successful peers who do not have to deal with similar life realities like taking care of children, caregiving for a loved one, or the cultural expectations/pressures of their family and/or community.
  • Journaling can be a great way to process your thoughts, even if you’re not a professional writer, and can help you recognize signs of trauma so you can ask for help.
  • JOURNAL PROMPT:
    • What habits, beliefs, or traditions have you let go of or think you may need to let go of for better mental health as you pursue your life goals or career goals?
    • What goals have been interrupted by trauma or crisis that you want to pursue again? How can you approach them differently, instead of giving up on pursuing them?
    • What life dreams have you journaled about in the past that you may want to start looking at again and/or what new dreams do you want to write down now?
    • How do you define strength within your own life, and what do you need so you can get stronger in your strengths?

Contemporary life almost anywhere in the world is full of things that make us compare ourselves to others, especially those of us who engage with social media. Unfortunately, some comparisons call people with special needs and trauma survivors weak or weaker, but you do not have to accept that. You can learn how to define strength for yourself. If you choose to work on the suggested journal prompts, contact me and share your insights or feedback about the prompts.

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