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Exposing Wounds and Showing Scars: Vulnerability Is Essential to Growth After Trauma

Coach Donna Marie addresses a tough topic in this fourth episode of the fourth season of the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation podcast.

Showing scars is embarrassing, and exposing wounds is absolutely terrifying. This is why continuing as a podcaster was so hard for me this year. For my own growth, it was essential for me to get back up on the horse and face my fear. Watch or Listen to hear my perspectives on how vulnerability helps us all keep growing, especially as we continue recovering from traumas and crises. Scroll down to see my notes (aka key takeaways) for this episode.

How can black women leaders understand themselves better and make better choices so they will live more happily and have more joy in their relationships? Getting past perfectionism and being overly self-critical are keys to healing well after trauma.

~ Coach Donna Marie
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Key Takeaways and Other Notes:

  • REVIEW: episode 2 about boundaries and episode 3 about resilience for important takeaways, recommended reading, journal prompts, and more to support you as you go after your goals even while recovering from traumas or crises
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  • JOURNAL PROMPTS:
    • What are your current inputs and how do they shape or affect your outputs? (Remember: use this journal prompt to be more curious and compassionate with yourself, instead of judging yourself)
    • Why are you covering your wounds and hiding your scars? Which inputs can help to heal you from the inside and which ones make you feel more self-conscious about your wounds and scars?
    • Traumas and crises do not last forever. Who will you be after the dust settles? How can your inputs help shape who you become afterwards?
    • How can you ask new questions of yourself and create new journal prompts for yourself?
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This was episode 4 of the 4th season of Plant Your Seeds of Transformation. I’m grateful to God for sending those of you who have been watching or listening. If you’d like more support from me with learning how to use journaling as an official or more formal way to keep learning and growing so that you can achieve your goals despite past traumas or crises, join my Patreon community to access my coaching resources.

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Resilience: How You Can Prepare Yourself for the Unexpected

Coach Donna Marie is the host of the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation podcast where we discuss how black women leaders can understand themselves better and make better choices so that they will live more happily and have more joy in all of their relationships.

This is the 3rd episode of the 4th season of the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast. You will be challenged to define what resilience is for yourself and to think about how to prepare yourself for the unexpected so you can bounce back more effectively. Coach Donna Marie continues the conversation about what can help you survive and thrive after recovering from traumas and crises. And again, she reminds you that perfectionism is counter-productive and even destructive to this process of trauma recovery.

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Key Take Away Points May Include:

  • What is resilience and what can that look like for you?
    • Definition 1 of Resilience: an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change;
    • Definition 2 of Resilience: the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress
    • Which definition resonates with you most?
  • JOURNAL PROMPT: When thinking about what resilience is, how do you see yourself and what you’ve been through compared to these definitions? Create your own definition of what resilience looks like for you.
  • How can journaling help you cultivate better resilience?
    • Developing more self-awareness means that you listen to your own heart better instead of just relying on what others tell you about yourself.
      • It’s possible that as you build more self-awareness, you’ll discover that you need therapeutic support with dealing with things from the past that may be blocking your forward progress. There’s no shame in needing or wanting therapy. (See this previous episode that talks about therapy more.)
    • Journaling can help you develop your self-awareness more by helping you to visually see your thoughts, not for the purpose of judging yourself, but for understanding yourself more. I suggested reading in episode 2 that can help you with being more compassionate towards yourself.
  • Practical steps to creating a journaling practice that promotes resilience
    • 1. Set your intentions to use journaling as a regular practice, and not to just look at your pretty journal sitting on the table/shelf every once in a while.
    • 2. Journal at the same time every day (or week) – engaging in co-working is one great way to develop a consistent schedule.
    • 3. Use a dedicated journal just for this specific goal of recovering from trauma/crisis (make it fit the aesthetic that pleases your eyes and/or your senses)
      • It could be audio – video journal.
      • It could be a pretty frilly journal book that includes a textured cover, like glitter or fuzz (if it doesn’t have it, get out your arts and crafts and make it look like you want)
      • It could be in your notes app in your phone… but if so, make sure you organize any digital notes or journaling apps into folders or use tags so you can locate your entries when you want/need to review them

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Conclusion

How has your perspective about resilience changed by watching or listening to this episode? If you’d like to share with me, use the contact form to reach out. For your own sake, please take the time to answer the journal prompt and use it as a way to support yourself with your journey towards fulfilling your goals while you are recovering from traumas and/or crises.

Relationship Between Trauma Recovery and Good Boundaries

Episode 2 Season 4 of the Plant Your Seeds of Transformation Podcast

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In the first episode of season 4, (via youtube only) you will hear me share about the things that you can do to survive and thrive after trauma. Now, in this second episode of season 4, you’ll hear me share about how you can intentionally become more resilient to recover better and/or faster after traumas and crises have happened… and setting good boundaries plays an essential part.

Key Takeaways You May Hear In This Episode Include:

RECOMMENDED RESEARCH, READING, OR LISTENING

Learn about how therapy that explores “internal family systems” could help you understand yourself better and have more compassion for yourself. Search for that term in Google or on YouTube to find books and podcasts on this topic. Also, check out the last book in my list, if you like to read.

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